Today I want to say thanks for two very important gifts. They came disguised as simple incidents, but they have shown me that life is never straight forward and everything plays out only when its the right time.
I just got back from a three week trip to my parents' house, and my son's joy at being back home took me by complete surprise. I don't know if I understood until now just how much he missed his familiar surroundings and his paternal family while he was away with me. But the great thing is he never made me feel it. Somehow he seems to have understood that this trip was very important for me and he happily spent the time away from home playing and making new relationships. So thank you my sweet darling for being so patient with your mother and for making this trip so easy on me.
My father is a man of few words and has never been very good at explaining why he needs something done. When questioned, he simply uses his paternal authority to over rule any doubts and closes the argument by saying that even if he tried to explain, we were incapable of grasping the finer intricacies of the financial and legal aspects of family businesses. So when he asked me give him signed copies of some documents, he was quite shocked at my response. Not only did I know exactly why he wanted them, but even had a suggestion about how to make things more efficient. After explaining things to my father I had to ask myself- so why am I familiar with these things and maybe not some of the other ladies in my family? The difference is the environment of my husband's home. Here I have been exposed to financial, legal and other such matters that perhaps I would not have been exposed to in another family. By making me a part of financial decisions, by making me shoulder the responsibility of managing money, bank accounts etc.( many times despite my unwillingness) my husband and his family has empowered me.They have made my life easier by making it tougher. So thank you dear family for these very important skills.
I just got back from a three week trip to my parents' house, and my son's joy at being back home took me by complete surprise. I don't know if I understood until now just how much he missed his familiar surroundings and his paternal family while he was away with me. But the great thing is he never made me feel it. Somehow he seems to have understood that this trip was very important for me and he happily spent the time away from home playing and making new relationships. So thank you my sweet darling for being so patient with your mother and for making this trip so easy on me.
My father is a man of few words and has never been very good at explaining why he needs something done. When questioned, he simply uses his paternal authority to over rule any doubts and closes the argument by saying that even if he tried to explain, we were incapable of grasping the finer intricacies of the financial and legal aspects of family businesses. So when he asked me give him signed copies of some documents, he was quite shocked at my response. Not only did I know exactly why he wanted them, but even had a suggestion about how to make things more efficient. After explaining things to my father I had to ask myself- so why am I familiar with these things and maybe not some of the other ladies in my family? The difference is the environment of my husband's home. Here I have been exposed to financial, legal and other such matters that perhaps I would not have been exposed to in another family. By making me a part of financial decisions, by making me shoulder the responsibility of managing money, bank accounts etc.( many times despite my unwillingness) my husband and his family has empowered me.They have made my life easier by making it tougher. So thank you dear family for these very important skills.
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